tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post1317921548043080511..comments2023-12-28T04:04:49.750-05:00Comments on $12 a day: Debt Quote Tuesday, No Regretsrivulethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11352395562904461909noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-37260752203248626482015-12-02T15:35:22.920-05:002015-12-02T15:35:22.920-05:00I'm in a weird place. I don't have any hur...I'm in a weird place. I don't have any hurt or anger towards my parents. None. I also don't blame them for any of the brokenness in me BUT I can now pin point places where intense hurt, wounding, and brokenness occurred, 100% due to decisions that they made. I'm not focused on them and thank God I don't have to focus on forgiving them, because I already have, but I am focusing on fixing the broken parts of me. I need to look to the past because it is VERY much dictating the way I see now, the way I act now, the way I treat people now and some times I have to grumble to get over the hill that needs to be climbed but I'm not mad at anyone, just trying to heal. rivulethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352395562904461909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-87615850504639663482015-12-02T15:32:02.042-05:002015-12-02T15:32:02.042-05:00Ah, life! Right? I'm not planning on dwelling ...Ah, life! Right? I'm not planning on dwelling on anything either, especially my short comings but I am come to terms with the fact that regret is real and should be dealt with as well.rivulethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352395562904461909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-9063278003380142842015-12-02T15:30:57.715-05:002015-12-02T15:30:57.715-05:00I'm thinking too, like a million words a minut...I'm thinking too, like a million words a minute. I can't even shut my brain off.rivulethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352395562904461909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-68533408276665386062015-12-02T15:30:34.585-05:002015-12-02T15:30:34.585-05:00I've been trying to face some things that aren...I've been trying to face some things that aren't very simple for me. I haven't read any of Brene's other books. A very good friend recommended this one to me and I'm loving it so much. It's been like much needed medicine at the exact right time. <br /><br />I would have never said it before, although I felt it was true, but now I do believe that regret should be used constructively, it should be used as fuel (for good things, haha).rivulethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352395562904461909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-50079833452140739642015-12-02T15:26:18.627-05:002015-12-02T15:26:18.627-05:00I don't want to ever focus on the past and the...I don't want to ever focus on the past and the things I can't change either. That's just needless torture. What I'm realizing lately though is that I have several central mis-truths (concepts that my heart believes are true but that are completely false). I've recently realized that I need to look into the past and at where the hurt was, at where the lie became truth so that I can walk away from it.<br /><br />The no regrets thing is a tiny little speck of that. I've tried to live my life for a long time with "no regrets." But I've finally come to terms with the fact that regret is normal, it can be used constructively and having no regrets simply means burring them (at least in my case) so that instead of giving them attention they're left in the dark to fester. I don't like festering.rivulethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352395562904461909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-3482209289733854492015-12-02T10:30:20.495-05:002015-12-02T10:30:20.495-05:00I feel exactly the same way! Haha and about your ...I feel exactly the same way! Haha and about your mom denying having said certain things...ugh, my mom says the SAME thing. Makes me wonder if she really does forget or is so ashamed of whatever it is I remembered as a kid, she doesn't want to admit she remembers. I used to verbalize my regrets about how they raised me...but then my husband pointed out that I have no excuses now that I'm adult: if I'm dissatisfied with myself, it's all on me to improve, not to look to the past and grumble. He's right :(Gabyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15608557927365730961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-91289540949392711292015-12-02T01:33:09.112-05:002015-12-02T01:33:09.112-05:00I have many many regrets, but I have learned to tr...I have many many regrets, but I have learned to try and improve things rather than dwell on the regret. Of course I am a slow learner and seem to find new and different things to regret.Anne in the kitchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01533249631969001657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-11603030210208314552015-12-02T01:06:26.458-05:002015-12-02T01:06:26.458-05:00Hmm, interesting post. I'd never thought abou...Hmm, interesting post. I'd never thought about regret like that. You've got me thinking!Frugally challengedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10222391810215537820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-68969260487003679062015-12-01T20:13:35.202-05:002015-12-01T20:13:35.202-05:00Oooh, I will quote you. (Regret) It is fuel. It i...Oooh, I will quote you. (Regret) It is fuel. It is motivation. I have tried to understand or like Brene Brown's books, but they seem so overly complex when it is simple. You nailed it. SAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16485146123969622896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5375475720350356941.post-87964033239440651592015-12-01T16:56:30.258-05:002015-12-01T16:56:30.258-05:00I'm with you on the regrets. I try to reflect ...I'm with you on the regrets. I try to reflect enough to understand & not repeat my mistakes, while not overly focusing on the past & things I can't change. It's a delicate balance. I'm overly self critical, so if I have to lean in a direction, I lean towards not thinking about things, once I've properly inventoried my feelings & learnings. Otherwise, it starts a negative spiral that serves no purpose. . . Hawaii Plannerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04760426766801381563noreply@blogger.com