Good money dilemma update: We've FINALLY decided on the "birthday party" for my kiddo. So, some of the tax refund has now been spent.
I'd hoped to do a smallish family party at our house to celebrate our big guy (our families combined make up a lot of people). The facts that we really did want to get people together to celebrate our little man and that he has an impeccable memory would make a party really impactful for him. He still vividly remembers his birthday party at our house last year (when he turned two).
Well, without going into too much detail there were a few too many cooks in the kitchen so to speak and the birthday party planning became absurd (I'm not referring to my husband). After a few weeks of bickering (I am not joking) I decided, that as much as it hurt me, we really needed to throw the towel in and scrap the party. A day of the three of us together doing fun things sounded like the best plan to me. My husband was not on board with this as it would upset the other cooks more than he cared to.. ugh.
By the grace of God last night a commercial came on tv for an event that apparently my husband has been wanting to take little Abe to for about a year now but he'd forgotten (and never told me about it). So we purchased three tickets online for Disney on Ice for the day of Abe's birthday and the party is officially called off. <Deep sigh of relief> It was a little more than I'd hoped to spend but A.) We will have some great family time together, the three of us, on my little man's birthday doing something very out of the ordinary. B.) It's still way less money than the fantastical party my husband was theoretically planning. C.) My little man will LOVE it as all of his favorite Disney characters will be there ice skating in a fun live show... he's going to have a blast!
I'll bake a cake for the three of us to enjoy and he can blow out his birthday candles while we sing him happy birthday at home. We'll get him some birthday balloons and he'll get to open his gifts from us.
BRILLIANT idea - he will remember this birthday for a long time and it is kind of nice that you won't have to "share" the magic with anyone else!!! We've taken our kids to Disney on Ice over the years and I'll tell you one thing, Disney doesn't do anything half-assed - he will LOVE this...and so will you! Good choice!!!
ReplyDeleteThank-you immensely for the support and positive comments! We just made this decision last night and I'm waiting for the stuff to hit the fan any minute now. I know this is going to be awesome for my little guy and I'm really looking forward to it just being the three of us but... support... not something that comes easily from half of the family. (I also like that my hubby thought of it)
DeleteSometimes you just have to do what is right for your own family regardless of what anyone else thinks! Both hubby & I pretty much broke off all ties with both sides of our family because the relationships were TOXIC - not good for us and certainly not good for our kids. I don't regret what we did but do wish my kids had more than us for "family" - although we have wonderful, wonderful friends who made up for it!!!
ReplyDeleteStick to your guns and do what you both feel is right for your family and believe me, you will have more fun watching the joy on his face than anything else!!!
I've heard that same situation from a few people. That's too bad Sue :(
DeleteBut I get what you're saying, totally!
Maybe one or two of the cooks would want to have a night with your little guy-some undivided attention and you can have a couples night.
ReplyDeleteThat's not what they want but good idea even so :)
DeleteMy hubby and I do have a date night scheduled this month though! woohoo. We do baby sitting swap with another couple of ours. We watched their little guy on Valentines and they're gonna watch little Abe on my birthday. We only go out for a few hours but it's fun to babysitter swap with them. And the boys love it.